In 2015, a video of a doctor crying after the loss of his teenage patient went viral. If you watch it, you'll see why. It was the most heart-wrenching reminder that doctors are human too. And with that humanity, they have feelings, emotions, sadness, depression and suicidal thoughts. People seem to forget that. Healthcare professionals are just as human as you are. We're not made of some titanium shield that keeps us from going through this human experience just like anyone else. We have doubt, self-worth issues, massive debt, relationship struggles, insecurities, PTSD, manic episodes and moments of overwhelming emotions, too. We often question our role on this planet because we're called to healing, yet we're somehow not allowed to practice in the way our heart says is best. We're people pleasers and when our managers, who we happen to like as a friend, tells us we have to 'produce more', we acquiesce because that's how we roll. Even though patient care may be compromised, even though we may not get to do what we believe is the bast plan of care for the sick and suffering. Many of us are highly-sensitive individuals and even more of us are empaths, we pick up the energy and emotions of those around us and take them on as our own.
We need to be looked at as humans so that we feel safe enough to be human. We need to feel like it's just fine and normal to cry after the loss of our patient because it is. We can't just be expected to suck it up and go onto the next one. Could you?
Powerless leads to isolation and fear, according to Brene Brown. This makes so much sense in the healthcare world. Our healers have been robbed of their power. The people with the degrees, the expertise, the skills, the heart and the soul for healing have been beaten down by school, training, residency and employment to the point of powerlessness. The ones in charge should be the healers bringing in the money for clinics and hospitals, but that is not the case. The big payouts and appreciation goes to the guys and gals in the ivory tower, who never once touch a patient, holding the belt over our heads to see more, produce more, work more. It sounds dramatic, but it's the truth. We're left feeling so untethered to our true calling and instead just tied to a paycheck. Without a voice, without any power, we go inside and escape the outside world. We isolate ourselves and now that loneliness is quickly becoming the public-health issue of our time this is a HUGE deal. Our healers can't isolate themselves, we need them. Then fear steps in and keeps healers frozen and stuck. And it just becomes a vicious cycle.
As long as our healers feel dehumanized our healthcare system will continue to be broken. There is not a single doubt in The Well Collective's minds and hearts that healthy healers equal a healthy world. This is the foundation for our work and where we step in. We believe you know what you need to find meaning in medicine again, you just need the time to rest, relax, restore and remember. We believe in you. We see you at your highest self, your greatest calling and help set the stage to guide you there. We surround you with positivity and possibility. We reignite hope. We love on you and make sure you know that your dream life and practice is totally possible.
Please join this movement with us. Dr. Pamela Wible is an amazing doctor and a pioneer in this space. Read her blog and start to educate yourself on the issues of physician depression and suicide. Unfortunately, it is universal, healers of all modalities- nurses, PA's, paramedics, dentists, first-responders- are all feeling this. We're going full-force with this mission and we hope you'll come with us. Our world needs it, now more than ever. Thank you for reading.